There’s Always a Bright Side in Any Race

Marathon Sticker

This past weekend, I ran my fifth full marathon: the Charlottesville Three Bridges Marathon. It was what I had trained months for, slated as my “A” fall race and was ready to conquer as my first Boston-qualifying race.

Well…that didn’t happen.

You see, on December 2, I not only failed to break my current Personal Record of 3:43:18, but I didn’t even make the mark of a Sub-4 hour marathon – a feat I had accomplished in my very first marathon, Richmond, more than a year ago. I would be lying if I said that I took this performance in stride but with running, and particularly even more with marathons, it’s important to remember that sometimes things don’t work out the way we want, but that doesn’t mean we should give up.

You see, my 4:03:00 time (and yes, that is correct, I didn’t let any extra seconds get away from me) doesn’t define me as a marathoner. Or as a runner. Or even, as a person. On that cold, sunny morning, that 4:03:00 meant something totally different: it meant that I had the courage to finish what I started. As all hope drained from my time goal, I had to constantly reassess what exactly I was doing out there, running back and forth (it was a 4 loop course, not even kidding). Yes, there were definitely moments I wanted to quit – at mile 22, my Garmin does not lie when it says it was a 12 minute mile – and that’s because I sat down on the guard rail and silently sobbed for more than four minutes. But, with each setback (foot cramp, feeling of desperation or walk through at a water stop) I performed a self-check: was I actually injured? Or was it just my ego taking a beating?

Each time, I soldiered on.

As I set back on that final loop, I had to stop and walk more than once. My Garmin data looks like that of an incredibly erratic person; with everything from several sub-8 miles to a handful of double-digit ones. It just wasn’t my day…whether it was my lingering cold, the lack of energy (from myself and/or from spectators – this experience has certainly taught me I am more of a “big race” person) or just some case of stars not aligning in some universe far, far away…when I crossed the finish line, I had to just let it go.

Race results may not define us, but the way that we learn from them, well – that’s a different story.

What’s your experience with not reaching goal time? How important is racing to you in running? With so many things that can go wrong in a race, how do you make the very best out of any race? Please share in the comment section below.

Author Bio: Krissy is a running enthusiast who was bitten by the racing bug in 2011 at the Walt Disney World Half Marathon…and hasn’t looked back since! A self-proclaimed military brat, Krissy has bounced around the world her whole life and currently resides in Charlottesville, VA with her husband, Eric. Find out more about Krissy here and follow her on Twitter.
  • http://twitter.com/rav_josh RJ

    A bright side would be if one can track their race using a branded bracelet like Amiigo which can record every run and helps compare past running data with present to see how fit a person is. All this by just wearing a bracelet and their shoe clip which makes swimming, cycling and other exercises measurable. Go Amiigo!

  • http://twitter.com/miss_mollie Mollie Turner

    You’ve only been racing for a year? Geez! When I started running I thought a 5k was long enough, and it took me years to get up the courage for longer races. You’re going to have a fantastic 2013, I just know it.

    • http://twitter.com/krissymmurphy krissy murphy

      Thanks so much for the encouraging words, Mollie!!

  • http://twitter.com/ReadyTechRun Lauren S.

    Way to finish, even when you were upset and frustrated. I am working up toward my first half this Feb, so I can only dream of a marathon. But, I do know that keeping yourself moving is more than half the challenge in a race – and you kept moving and FINISHED! That is a victory every time! :)

    • http://twitter.com/krissymmurphy krissy murphy

      Thank you, Lauren :) Your comment means a lot!!

  • http://twitter.com/BackAtSquare0 BackatSquare0

    Amazing story. My first and only marathon so far was horrid like that.
    I though because of all my training runs I’d hit my 4:30 goal and I finished around 5:15 YIKES! However, like you I pushed on. I love how you kept going even when you didn’t meet your goal.
    P.S.- Someday I hoep to be fast enough to run a 4:03:)

    • http://twitter.com/krissymmurphy krissy murphy

      Thanks :D

  • http://twitter.com/PavementRunner Pavement Runner

    Sometimes just the task of finishing is WAY more accomplishing than hitting a time. It’s those races that make us stronger.

    • http://www.BeyondDistance.com/ Kevin

      I agree! “The Journey is the reward”!

  • http://twitter.com/EpicuriousRunnr Stephanie J.

    Races like this definitely suck! You stayed strong though and that’s what matters. You finished!!! You are still staying strong by moving on and pushing forward. Everyone has races like this every once in a while and sometimes it takes a lot to get over it, especially when it’s a big race like a marathon.

    I’m really looking forward to your next marathon! I KNOW you have a BQ in you!!!

    • http://twitter.com/krissymmurphy krissy murphy

      Thanks so much, Stephanie. It means a lot from you to hear such great encouragement :) So lucky to have support from amazing friends!!

  • robinbn

    Oh, Krissy, I have been in your shoes. It is so hard to finish those races but you would have hated yourself if you didn’t finish. The elusive BQ dream is something that is so fun to work toward and such a pain in the ass at the same time. You will get that BQ, I am absolutely sure of it. And once that BQ happens you will be amazed at what your body can accomplish.

    • http://twitter.com/krissymmurphy krissy murphy

      Oh Robin, you keep inspiring me on this wacky quest!! :D I know one day I will look back and laugh (maybe manically) but I’ll never forget how much you believe(d) in me. <3

  • http://twitter.com/megatha Meg G.

    Congrats on pushing through and still finishing. And just think how many would love to have a 4:03 marathon time! I think as runners we all face challenges that seem impossible but we overcome and we learn lessons much bigger than just running, we learn how strong we really are. I think you deserve a huge congrats!!!

    • http://twitter.com/krissymmurphy krissy murphy

      Thanks so much, Meg! And you’re right, it’s important to always keep things in perspective. The day after the race, I was whining about the 4:03 and someone was like, “WHAT? How is that a BAD time?” It’s all relative!! :)